Hip flexors generally tend to be thought of as the psoas, rectus femoris, tensor fascae latae, sartorius.
All of these muscles can be used to flex the hips but they also work on or are affected by other joints.
The muscles that I'll focus on first in this article are normally considered hip stabilizers. They are all single joint hip muscles which means that the only joint that they actually cross and act on is the hip joint.
And to refine the idea of single jointedness even further, muscles that cross or act on the si joint (or lumbar vertebrae) are not included in this group.
And so the hip flexors that I'll focus on are muscles that attach to the hip bone portion of the pelvis and the thigh bone.
(The hip bone is the "side" of the pelvis. It's actually made up of three bones fused together, the ilium, pubis and ischium.)
Because these muscles attach directly between the pelvis and the thigh bone they can be used to directly control that relationship.
For myself (and some of my students) learning to feel and use these muscles has made forward bending easier. They give more "solid" control of the pelvis.
Anatomists use the term hip flexion. You can think of this as forward bending at the hip.
In a seated position where you are using your arms to lift the leg, then that too is hip flexion if you use your arms to help move the front of the thigh towards the front of the pelvis.
However, rather than using the hip flexors to flex the hip, in this case you are using your arms.
When I first started working on forward bending form an anatomical perspective, I always used to focus on the psoas major, thinking that it was much more important than the rectus femoris as a hip flexor.
And so I'd teach people to focus on drawing their lumbar spine towards the inner thighs as they bent forwards.
Later on as I began to explore the single joint muscles of the hip, I realized that perhaps it's these muscles that can be most helpful in a forward bend.
Now what I'd suggest is learn to control the single joint muscles first, and then learn to add multi joint muscles on top of that.
Rather than stretching all the way to the knee (as the rectus femoris, sartorius and the tensor fascae latae do) or rather than attaching to a potentially changeable structure like the lower back (as the psoas does) most of the single joint hip muscles attach close to the hip joint and have angles of attachment that give them much better leverage for tilting the pelvis forwards relative to the thigh bone.
Not only that, these muscles (to a large extent) aren't dependent on whether the knee is straight or bent, or on whether the lumbar spine is curved backwards, bent forwards or held straight.
All that is required is an awareness of the thigh and pelvis, and for one or the other of these to be held stable so that the hip flexors have a stable foundation from which to work. They can then either tilt the pelvis forwards relative to the thigh or swing the thigh forwards relative to the pelvis.
Knowing some reference points on the pelvis can make it easier to learn to feel and control the hip flexor muscles.
Rather than using the standard anatomical position as a reference I'm going to invent a reference position.
The Standing Reference Position
The first position is standing with feet hip or shoulder width apart, feet and knees pointing straight ahead and upper body horizontal. The hands are beneath the shoulders and are resting on the floor or blocks.
The assumption is that the hip extensors are flexible enough to allow the pelvis to tilt further forwards from this position.
Weight is even on both feet and the arms support the weight of the upper body.
The Seated Reference Position
A variation is to sit with the legs straight and hip width and the torso vertical with hands "resting" on the floor.
In either case, the hip flexors can be used to tilt the pelvis forwards relative to the thighs. Meanwhile the hip extensors offer just enough tension so that the hip flexors have something to work against.
The iliacus "originates" on the inside of the pelvic bowl.
It wraps around the front of the pelvis and then reaches down and back to attach just below the lesser trochanter. In the seated reference position, this muscle pulls the top of the pelvis forwards and down.
Because it folds around the pelvis, this may give the muscle extra leverage. In addition, it attaches to a large portion of the inside of the pelvis giving it even more leverage.
Pectinus has a similiar angle of attachment as the iliacus but instead of starting at the inside of the pelvis it attaches to the outside of the pelvis.
In the seated reference position this muscle can be thought of as pulling down (and back) on the pubic bone.
Obturator externus originates at the sides of the bottom of the pelvis, behind the pubic bone. It passes under the neck of the thigh bone, wraps around the back of the neck.
Because of the way it wraps around the neck, my feeling is that this muscle still has room to tilt the pelvis forwards even when the pelvis is tilted forwards relative to the thigh. Activating this muscle can feel like you are pulling the pubic bone down and back in the seated position.
The obturator internus like the iliacus originates on the inside of the pelvis. However this hip flexor attaches to the lower back portion of the inner pelvis.
It folds around the pelvis at the lower sciatic notch. It attaches to the inside of the greater trochanter, where it joins the neck of the thigh bone.
This muscle is"joined" by the gemelus superior and inferior. The superior muscle originates from the ischial spine. The inverior muscle originates from the top of the ischial tuberosity.
In the seated reference position these muscles act to pull the sitting bones up.
Gluteus minimus originates on the outside of the upper front portion of the pelvis. Where the iliacus is on the inside, this hip flexor (more or less) is on the outside.
And like the iliacus the gluteus minimus pulls the top of the pelvis forwards and down in the seated reference position.
I almost forgot to talk about the adductors, in particular adductor brevis, longus and magnus.
All of these muscles attach to the inner thigh. More importantly they attach to the front of the bottom portion of the pelvis.
Along with the pectinues and obturator internus these hip flexors can be used to pull the pubic bone down and back in the seated reference position.
Note that the adductor magnus has an attachment to the sitting bone. This portion of the muscle can actually be used to tip the pelvis backwards relative to the thighs.
In the standing reference position you can think of the illiacus and gluteus minimus pulling the top of the pelvis down. The pectineus and obturator internus pull the pubic bone back, between the thighs.
The obturator internus and gemelli pull the sitting bones up.
So how do you actually go about using the hip flexors to stretch the hamstrings?
How do you learn to activate them?
One method is to learn to move the thigh relative to the pelvis using those vary muscles.
That is covered in Muscle Control for Flexibility.
Another method is learning to move the pelvis relative to the thigh(s).
That is covered in Simple Hip Control Techniques.
As a yoga teacher, I'm constantly exploring new exercises, new ways of doing yoga poses.
There is no single "right way" of doing a yoga pose. Instead, there are options. And the better you are at "feeling" your body, the better you can get at choosing the right option for your body as it is now.
For any technique, the point of practice is to learn feel it and to control it, so that it can be used without thinking about how to use it.
And that is more or less the approach taken in all of my ebooks and videos. They help you to feel your body and control it so that you can work towards using it effectively in anything that you do.